"There is someone special for everyone. Often there are two or three or even four. They come from different generations. They travel across oceans of time and the depths of the heavenly dimensions to be with you again. They come from the other side, from heaven ... You are bonded together throughout eternity, and you will never be alone."
I was reading this book called Only Love is Real by Dr Brian Weiss, a psychiatrist who uses past life regression as a way to heal his patients. This is his third book that I've read and I must say I am hooked. And yes, this was way before "Raaz pichle janam ka"! :)
There are many parts that have fascinated me very much and I ponder over them now and again and the more I think about it, the more it makes sense to me. I think I can safely say I am very much a believer.
Now this book in particular talks about soulmates and how they unite and separate across many lives only to come together again and again. They re-unite in many relationships besides lovers. They could be father-daughter, brother-sister, friends, grandmother-grandchild, teacher-student and so on and so forth. He cites the example of two of his patients who have never met each other in their present lives and during their individual, separate treatments and past-life regressions they both go back to the same past life... in which they shared a close and loving father-daughter relationship. They describe the exact same events and love for each other. They had a happy ending and are now apparently happily married!
But more fascinating to me was something that has been given great emphasis in all of his books. We have had a soul connection with everyone we come across in our lives. There is something valuable to learn from every single person we connect with in our life - our family, friends and even people we may have just spoken to for 5 minutes. There is some significance in all our relationships, good and bad.
Think of soul relationships as similar to a large tree with a thousand leaves on it. The leaves on your twig are intimately close to you. You may even share experiences, soul experiences, among yourselves. There may be two or three or four or even five leaves on your twig {or more}. You are also highly and closely related to the other leaves on the branch next to yours. They share a common limb. They are close to you, but not as close as the leaves on your twig. Similarly, as you extend farther out along the tree, you are still related to these other leaves or souls, but not as closely as those in your immediate proximity. You are all part of one tree and one trunk. You can share experiences. You know each other. But those on your twig are and will remain closest.
There are many other trees in this forest and each tree is connected to the others through the roots! So even though there may be a leaf on some distant tree that seems very far away, it is still connected to you.
Amazing, huh!?
Now, when I say I'm a believer, I mean it. But still this thought came up in my head and won't go away. So, okay, we all have this soulmate. Maybe in this life, it is my mother or father or brother or my best friend or maybe my future husband! Understood. And I think I know who it is. But the point I'm trying to make is this.
On an average, most people would have say 4-5 relationships in their life before they settle down with (supposedly) "the one", right? Love relationships. Now, speaking only for myself, I feel with every relationship that I have had... I leave a part of myself with that person when one or both of us move on. Isn't there this feeling, that emotion, something or the other that instantly reminds you of that person, who is no longer in your life or part of it (except that one phone call, say once or twice in 6 months). There is a print of my soul that I've left behind and it will forever be that way. What is that then? We learn from them and/or they learn from us and then we move on and forget? But aren't we leaving behind parts of our soul? Sure, there could be so many dimensions to this discussion here.
Let's presume the person I end up marrying is my soulmate. The one. When we meet it will be perfect and we will share the most intimate soul connection. But we are definitely leaving something behind with every relationship, serious or casual, that we are a part of. I really do believe we leave behind parts of our being, our soul as we go about our lives. Our soul prints~
So wont there be something missing in my soulmate connection then?
